Women wearing the traditional niqab is not an uncommon sight here in Kuwait (although it's equally common to see women who just wear a veil to cover their hair or no veil at all). However, last week I had my first 'interaction' so to speak with a woman wearing a niqab and it made me wonder:What on earth will I do if I become friends with someone wearing a niqab and we agree to meet, say at a coffee place??
The obvious solution would be for me to come early and wait for her to find me (I stand out a lot). But seriously, what would I do? Would I be able to recognize her by her eyes? By her eye make-up? Or by the half-hidden shape of her body? The tip of her shoe that becomes slightly visible when she walks? Her perfume?
Now some of you might think that's never going to happen - that I will not possibly be friends with someone wearing a niqab since we would have nothing in common and our worlds would never meet. Well, I'm not so sure about that - maybe it's just a stereotype some of us in the West unfortunately have that women who are completely covered (in public that is) must by default be oppressed by their husbands, forced into covering themselves, have no rights, be close-minded and from strictly religious (dare I say fundamentalist) families. The woman I met last week was all the opposite - an American citizen, fluent of course in English and in Spanish due to family heritage and now in Arabic since she has married a Kuwaiti man. She has done her Master's Degree in the USA and went on to do a PhD, she is in no way restricted to her house, has her own very strong opinions and is free to go wherever she wants. And she has converted to Islam by choice. Now, who says I couldn't be friends with a woman wearing a niqab?I really don't want to get myself into the debate about whether women should or should not cover themselves - that is not for me to decide or debate - I am just stating that here it is completely common and it seems that nobody puts more into it than if I am wearing a cardigan or a sweater - it's just a shell.
It did make me realize, however, just how much importance I place on people's entire faces, on their facial expressions on watching their mouth when they talk. Maybe it's like when people lose one of their senses - like blind people having extraordinary hearing - and I will be much better at 'reading eyes' because all the other 'disturbing elements' are covered. What I can say for sure is that I have truly understood the concept of smiling with the eyes and luckily I have gotten a lot of eye smiles so far.
Picture on the right from www.muslimbase.com/

